Friday, May 18, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday (Take 58)


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Thanks to those of you who prayed for my mom last weekHer infection was minor and she was able to come home on Saturday. She's still experiencing quite a bit of pain and her recovery has been difficult because my dad works out of town four days a week and can't help her.  Continued prayers would be great, but it looks like she's on the mend and she's scheduled to be back at work a week from Monday.

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I had a new guest post this week in my Baby on a Budget series entitled "Top Ten Couponing Tips for Beginners".  It's a great introduction for anyone who wants to start couponing or who wants to do a little more with it.  It is by no means only for the parent of a baby, the post was written by Beth Anne of The Catholic Couponer who is not a mom.  I am planning to write a more specific post on baby coupons, but this is a great introduction.  Although I consider myself to be pretty handy with the coupons (but not a professional "couponer" by any means), several of the tips were completely new to me.  Thank you, Beth Anne!

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In case you missed the big news for our family, my husband graduated on Sunday!  I wrote him a letter earlier this week to tell him how proud I am and how much it means to our family.

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Speaking of graduation, David is now looking for jobs.  Well, he didn't just start, he's been at it for awhile, but no luck yet.  We are going to have to make some very difficult decisions soon about whether David should continue pursuing post-docs to work toward his dream career in academia (which would most likely mean we would stay here in North Carolina) or whether he should widen his job search to industry jobs in order to have a better chance of moving back to Colorado.  If you get a chance, would you shoot up a prayer that we might soon given a sign as to which way God wants us to go?
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Today, two students asked me if I was pregnant.  My response: no, but I did just have a baby.  I didn't add that by "just" I meant over five months ago.  I'm within five pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight, but as evidenced by the questions, not everything is distributed quite the same as before.  I thought I was looking quite nice when I left the house this morning; there's nothing quite like a few middle schoolers to humble you.

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David's graduation happened to be on Mother's Day, so we didn't really do anything special.  But since it was my first Mother's Day (at least with a baby in the arms instead of in the womb), I did get a picture with my favorite girl.  Unfortunately, you can't see the corsage I was wearing.  David's mom bought it for me and I wore it with pride all day!

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What is your favorite online tool?  I recently discovered an amazing meal planner.  Then I found a few sites that make going out of town a bit easier.  And I can't forget the many ways I make a little money online to help supplement our income.  And then there are those that are just fun (read: time sucking) like Pinterest.  Are there any big sites I'm missing out on?  I'd especially love to find more of the former (useful ones) than the later (time killing) ones (although to be fair, I have found some awesome recipes on Pinterest).


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Thursday, May 17, 2012

Nostalgia for Newlywed Life

This morning, I was reading this blog post by Emily of My Song of Joy about what she missed about life with her husband before her kids were born.  I realized that there are a few things I miss about life "just the two of us" too.  It's not that I wish I could still do those things, because I love life as a family of three and acknowledge that it requires some fundamental changes about our relationship and what we can do together.  I just think fondly back on those memories.  They had their time and place, and the moments I miss were so integral in building our relationship into a strong foundation onto which we could support a family.  These are the little moments I miss:

When we were first married, David frequently brought home flowers for me.  They were almost always roses (my favorite) and they seemed to show up almost once a week.  One of my "love languages" is gifts and I could have just burst with happiness when he came in the door with them.  When we decided to start trying to have a baby, the roses were an expense that we couldn't justify anymore, but now we have our own little Lucia Rose, the greatest gift David's given me!

In the early months of our marriage, I worked odd hours at Starbucks and David often had to go in to work on experiments at all hours of the day and night.  But the odd hours didn't matter, because there were only two of us  and we were young enough to be able to work around the hours to find plenty of time together.  When I worked in the evenings, David would often come to Starbucks with his computer to work on his homework.  We really wouldn't have the chance to talk, but it was comforting to be able to look up whenever I wanted and see my husband.  Similarly, if he had to go into school on days I was off or evenings when I was home, I would often go with him.  Sometimes I'd join him in his office or lab, but just as often, I would stay in one of the study rooms on the floor above.  Again, we wouldn't always be able to spend that time together, but just being in each others' presence was enough for us, especially after having just spent two years living several states apart.

our first meal homemade meal as a married couple
If neither of us was working in the evening, we would go to the grocery store in the late afternoon to pick up ingredients for dinner.  I loved our daily grocery trip and then making dinner together afterward.  Sometimes we would pick a complicated meal (the first meal we made together as a married couple was a risotto), other times it would just be spaghetti and pasta sauce.  With a little one, getting out as a family to shop isn't as practical.  Neither is cooking dinner together, since someone needs to be entertaining Lucia (although we recently had some success bringing her in the kitchen with us and handing her kitchen utensils to play with).  Now that we are a family of three, we are watching our budget more closely, and choosing meals out of a cookbook and on a whim just aren't as cost-effective as meal planning around sales.  Someday, when David retires, I think this will be a newlywed tradition that will be resurrected (well, I wouldn't mind bringing back frequent flowers either).

After we decided to start trying to get pregnant, we cancelled our cable and internet.  For a few months we didn't have an antennae either, so television was completely off the table.  It was so fun finding things to do together - we would play board games and card games, we would cook elaborate meals, we would hang out late at Starbucks, drinking coffee and surfing the internet together.  We would watch one episode a day of House from my DVDs of the first three seasons (everyday we just couldn't wait for the next episode).  We would read.  We would pray.  We had so much time together, time to learn who we were as a couple, time to learn who we were as individuals, time to learn even more reasons we loved each other.  To be honest, when I think back on this time, I dream of a house without television (I'm not a particular fan of our children watching television anyway).  At least for the time being, internet is a necessity in the home so that our families halfway across the country can see our little Lulu, but I wouldn't mind getting rid of it once (if) we live by family.  Our time together is precious and irreplaceable. 


as newlyweds

The first six months of marriage were difficult.  It was hard to learn to live with someone else, not just in a roommate sense but intimately.  To be honest, I don't remember many of the difficult moments.  Instead, these are the moments that I remember of newlywed life.  Our wedding ceremony made us Mr. and Mrs., but it's through these moments that God taught us what is is to be husband and wife.

Those of you that are married, what do you miss about newlywed life?  

How do you keep the "newlywed" spark alive?  

If you are a newlywed, what do you think you'll miss? 

If you aren't married yet, what do you think you'll love most about newlywed life someday?

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Ssh-oes Review and Discount Code

My husband and I love the show Shark Tank.  If you are unfamiliar with it, here's the basic concept: people present their company/product to a panel of investors ("sharks") in an attempt to get them to invest money in their business or invention.  Some of the best ideas (and the ones the sharks fight over) are those that make my husband and I say, "Why didn't I think of that?"  The concepts are so simple, so obvious, and fulfill a real need.

"Why didn't I think of that?" is exactly what I thought when I first learned about Ssh-oes.  Ssh-oes is a line of very stylish, very quiet heels.  I received a pair of ssh-oes heels to review and I have to say, I don't quite understand how they work, but I can say that the noise reducing heel lift does work.  In fact, it took me a while to notice just how quiet they really are because it is difficult to notice something that's not there.  It wasn't until I wore them for an extended period of time in my kitchen that I realized there was almost no noise to speak of.  These shoes quickly became my favorite for student teaching - no more noises to startle elementary students or to announce my presence to high school students allowing them to hide their phones (or other contraband) before I get to them.

The noise reduction isn't the only feature that makes these shoes my favorite for long days on my feet; they are also very comfortable.  I am not one for very high heels, so I specifically picked the lowest heels Ssh-oes sells.  They were extremely comfortable compared to other heels of the same height that I already own. I would imagine that the taller heels would compare favorably to other shoes of the same height as well.  The next time I'm looking for particularly high shoes, I'll be turning to Ssh-oes first.  In fact, I wish I had learned about Ssh-oes before I bought the nude heels for my brother-in-law's wedding.  I'm a bridesmaid in the wedding and would be much more confident walking down the aisle in shoes that are less noisy (the ones I bought will be loud on the church's tile floor) and much more comfortable. 

The only criticism I can give of Ssh-oes is that there are only a half dozen styles offered currently (although all the varieties that are offered are cute!).  Since these shoes are so comfortable and so quiet, I would love to have my closet full of them if only enough styles were offered to compliment my entire wardrobe.  


If you'd like to have a pair of Ssh-oes for yourself, I'm so excited to offer you 60% (yes, that's SIXTY) percent off Ssh-oes with the coupon code CatholicNewlywed.  Enjoy!


I was sent a pair of Ssh-oes heels in order to facilitate this review. All opinions are 100% mine. See Disclosure Policy

To my husband, on the event of his graduation



My love, four years ago, when you moved away to start graduate school, I thought that was the end of our relationship.  We were so perfect for each other and I wondered why God brought you into my life only to take you away a few months later.  How wrong I was!  Here we are, we've made it together to your graduation day.  When you started, I barely knew you, but I knew enough to know that I was blessed to have you in my life.  As you walk across that stage, ending this chapter of your life and starting a new one, I watch you with tears in my eyes.  But I'm not alone, our daughter shares this incredible day with us.  She won't remember it, but I'll never forget how proud I am seeing you in your cap and gown (and hood!) holding our baby daughter.  It wasn't easy, but you were able to get married, have a baby, and support your family while getting your Ph.D.  When society told you to wait for a wife and children until after your education was over, you listened to the Lord and embraced the gifts of family while still in school.  Sweetheart, I love you and I'm so very, very proud of you! 

Monday, May 14, 2012

Baby on a Budget Guest Post: Top 10 Couponing Tips for Beginners


Some of the tips given by Baby on a Budget guest posters can be used to save money in all areas of your life, not just with a little one.  Couponing fits perfectly into this category.  I plan to write a post later on specifically about coupons for baby items (believe it or not, baby coupons are everywhere), but it's helpful to get a basic overview of couponing first.  I am so glad Beth Anne offered to write a guest post on couponing because she has a wealth of experience on the topic.  Although I do use coupons and actually find some pretty great deals sometimes (I usually save at least 30% of my grocery bill between coupons and sales), there were several of the following tips were brand new to me.  Remember, not all tips might apply to you and you don't have to be a "couponer" in order to get good savings from coupons now and then.  Figure out what works best for you and your family!

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When I first read about Mandi’s “Baby on A Budget” series I saw that she was looking for a guest post on Couponing. Even though I don’t have any children I still am a couponer and Mandi graciously agreed to let me write an intro to couponing post.

I want to prerequisite that I am no “couponing” expert although I have been called a Coupon Queen from family members. I have only been couponing since June I have made my fair share of mistakes, errors, and missed deals. No one is perfect but I hope these tips can help you get started.

1. Buy the Sunday paper. I always recommend buying at least 2 copies (I buy 4). The reason for this is for when a store has a BOGO (Buy one get one free) sale you can use two coupons. Sometimes you can get a discount if you buy multiple copies of the Sunday paper. If nothing else you don’t pay tax.

EXAMPLE: Publix had Nabisco Crackers on sale a few weeks ago BOGO @ $3 for 2 boxes. I had a coupon that was $1 off any 1 Nabisco product. I was able to use two coupons and pay $1 for two boxes of Nabisco Crackers (or 50 cents each). That is an 80% savings!
 
2. Create an organizational method. The key to couponing is staying ORGANIZED! Everyone uses a different method.

Some use binders.

Some use file folders or expandable files,
 
and some use the Couponizer (great for beginners)

Some organize coupons by date

and others organize coupons by category.

One thing I DO NOT recommend is organizing by Alphabet and organizing by EXPIRATION DATE. I have heard horror stories of these two methods because when you go to use the coupons it is hard to find the coupon you are looking for because some coupons work for different products and all coupons expire at different times.

EXAMPLE: I organize in a binder by date for the Sunday inserts and I have all my loose and printable coupons in an expandable file folder by category. There are examples above of the different things I use to organize my coupons.

3. Learn the LINGO. Once you get into couponing and following other couponing blogs you will learn that it is like learning a new language. There are so many different phrases that I have compiled a list of all the common couponing phrases.

EXAMPLE: You may see sentences like: “ALL NABISCO PRODUCTS BOGO $3, $1/1 SS 1/12/12” until you “learn the language” you will be TOTALLY confused. The above sentence can be translated as follows: All Nabisco products are on sale for Buy one get one free at $3 for 2. Use the $1 off 1 coupon from the Smart Source insert from January 1, 2012 newspaper.

Here are some other common phrases:
SS – SMART SOURCE
RP - REDPLUM
PG – PROCTOR AND GAMBLE (INSERT)
$1/1 – ONE DOLLAR OFF 1 ITEM
CPN or Q – COUPON
MFR – Manufacturer’s Coupon
PEELIE – Coupon that is found as a sticker on a certain product (you must BUY the product to use this kind of coupon)
STACKING – Using a store coupon with a manufacturer coupon
OOP – Out of Pocket

 
Portion of my stockpile from last summer
4. Learn the sale cycles in order to stockpile. Just about every COMMON item in your grocery store will eventually go on sale every 6-12 weeks. When the item goes on sale, you should purchase enough to get you through the next sale.

EXAMPLE: Let us use our Nabisco Crackers example. Each box of Nabisco Crackers comes with 100 crackers. How many crackers do you need to last you 6-12 weeks? Is two boxes enough or will you need 4 boxes? If you are having a party in a month you may want to pick up a few extra boxes while they are on sale so you aren’t purchasing the crackers for $3 a box or 80% more than necessary the week of the party.

5. Forget about Brand Loyalty. I know your Mom has been buying Crest toothpaste for YEARS and swears by it but you will get the most savings if you buy whatever brand is on sale. Like I said earlier every COMMON grocery store ITEM will go on sale every 6-12 weeks it just may not be your preferred brand.

EXAMPLE: I went overboard and literally have enough laundry soap to last me a year. I paid between $1-5 for each bottle of soap. I have Tide, Wisk, Purell, All, and Gain. My mom always bought All. I’m not sure why and I don’t think she knows either. But we were open to other brands and even though All is still our preferred brand we are willing to adjust and try whatever brand goes on sale that cycle.

6. Create a Pricelist. Due to regional differences you may not be able to get the same deals in Florida as someone in NY. Especially when you are first starting out and learning the prices. It is good to start with a list of all the lowest prices as a “guide” and then alter it to see what kind of deals you are finding.

EXAMPLE: My price list states that Frozen Vegetables can be purchased between Free and $0.75 each. I have purchased Frozen Vegetables for $0.69 and $1 so I am right on target for my pricelist price. If I saw an ad and the final price was $2 I may want to think twice before purchasing the item (unless I really needed them).

7. Shop Every WEEK. This may seem extreme but in order to get every possible sale item it is imperative that you shop at least twice a month (every week if possible). No one said you had to spend $100 every week. I recommend looking at the sales circular/coupon match-ups and see what items that your family NORMALLY USES is on sale. If nothing your family uses is on sale then don’t worry about it. But if one or two items that your family uses is on sale go to the store and get those one or two items.

EXAMPLE: Every Wednesday or Sunday go through all of the new ads (that usually come in the mail or online) and see if anything that your family uses is on sale. If you are running out of butter and that is the only good BOGO at Publix go and get the butter. There have been several weeks that less than 5 items have been on sale but I ran to the store to pick up the items in order to stock up on them at their lowest price.

8. Learn the Stores' Coupon Policy. Before you step foot in the store print a copy of the coupon policy, read it and take it with you to the store. Every store has different rules. Some stores double coupons up to xyz cents some don’t. Some stores will take COMPETITOR COUPONS, eCoupons, manufacturer coupons, x number of coupons per loyalty card and some don’t. Make sure to understand the policy before making a HUGE mistake at the register. 90% of the store policies should be available online. If you cannot locate a certain stores policy let me know and I will help you out. If it is a small store that is maybe not known nationwide you can always call the store or ask in the customer service area for a copy.

EXAMPLE: It is good to take it with you because many times the cashiers aren’t informed of the policy. If you have it printed to show them they will be like oh okay I didn’t know (Trust me I worked in a grocery store in high school and had NO IDEA what the policy was).

9. Take advantage of Rain checks. If you go to the store and they are out of the sale item you were going to purchase ask for a rain check at the customer service counter. Depending on the store the rain check will usually expire 1 month after it is issued. You can still use coupons with the rain checked item. Make sure to tell them the amount of deals you want to purchase so they can write it on the rain check (if necessary).

EXAMPLE: You go to Publix and they are out of the Nabisco Crackers in the flavor you like. You can go to customer service and ask for a rain check. Even though they may have other flavors just tell them they are out of the flavor you want and they will write a rain check. I have done this several times and was never given a hard time.

10. Shop in the drugstores. There are three popular drugstores spread throughout the country; CVS, Walgreens, and Rite-aid. Many people stay away from drugstores because they think their prices are TOO HIGH and a rip-off. Those people are WRONG because I have gotten some of my BEST DEALS shopping in drugstores! What makes Drugstores tricky is when you buy certain products you will receive Extra Care Bucks (ECB – CVS) or Register Rewards (RR – Walgreens) that can go towards an additional purchase. Some people will try and be WAY too complicated and do 3 transactions and use the rewards from transaction 1 to pay for transaction 2. I find it MUCH simpler to just do 1 transaction and then the following week use your old rewards. You usually get between 2-4 weeks to use the rewards.

EXAMPLE: On Thanksgiving weekend I was able to get a TON of free items at CVS. Note my Black Friday trip was very unusual. But I can usually save about 50% with $5-$10 in Extra Care Bucks (ECBs) for next time.

CVS Trip from Black Friday: Spent $55, Saved $32, Received $42 in Extra Care Bucks (ECBs)!

BONUS TASK!!

Follow [Subscribe] to a Coupon/Deal Blog. Find a blog that posts coupon match-ups for stores that you shop in the most. It is also helpful to find one for your area due to regional differences. What these blogs do is take this week’s Publix Circular, matches it with the coupons that are available, and tells you the final price (approx.) of the purchase. (Some will even tell you if you should stock up with 3-6 month supply). These blogs are also helpful if you are looking to save money online as well.

EXAMPLE: Many of these blogs (especially around Christmas time) will post great Amazon deals that they think are good deals. Word of caution don’t follow more than 5 of these types of blogs or you will get SUPER overwhelmed and a TON of email. Most Coupon/Deal blogs post 10+ times a day (I also have found that most of these blogs all post the same deals). I suggest 1-5 so you get a variety and then after a few weeks or months you will probably figure out which blogs you like the best.



*Disclosure: All prices and numbers in this post were made up by me and aren’t real deals


Beth Anne blogs about her two passions: Couponing and the Catholic Faith at The Catholic Couponer. She strives to help her readers learn to save money by couponing so they have extra money to get out of debt, go on a vacation, or give more to the less fortunate.  She recently relocated to Florida from Texas and loves exploring her new city and taking weekend trips to Walt Disney World.