tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post2647025250316025487..comments2023-07-28T09:40:38.679-04:00Comments on Messy Wife, Blessed Life: We're doing it backwards, but we're okay with that.Mandi Richardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14641577291206420549noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-57441583093255018402013-11-06T09:46:28.106-05:002013-11-06T09:46:28.106-05:00The joys of home ownership aren't always so jo...The joys of home ownership aren't always so joyful. :) I think you're smart to not buy until you're really ready to settle in someplace for a very long time and invest the money that it takes to maintain that home, as well as own it. :) Karen Edmisten https://www.blogger.com/profile/04446214835142625161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-13522533656474218792013-10-03T19:32:09.659-04:002013-10-03T19:32:09.659-04:00Who cares, indeed!
We rent, too. And it makes sen...Who cares, indeed! <br />We rent, too. And it makes sense, you know--the way we live and raise our kids challenges conventional "wisdom" in so many ways; why shouldn't the four wills we live in do the same? I feel like my parents and my husband's parents (who both bought homes before having kids) focused on providing a great material AND spiritual legacy to their children. Materialism is such a dangerous drug, though, and it's rampant in our world now; I almost feel like, even if we have the money to buy, that I don't want to. What a powerful testimony to the love and grace and joy of Christ if we can live without "all the things" and still be happy. You know? Sarah Noteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01275962137244763817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-36739858535913008452013-09-29T21:38:06.707-04:002013-09-29T21:38:06.707-04:00(Blogger swallowed my last comment--paraphrased ve...(Blogger swallowed my last comment--paraphrased version follows)<br />I'm all out of order--I've got the house, but no love, marriage, or baby carriage! Dad's a landlord, and I've seen several families spend the better part of their child-rearing years in apartments. Most are pretty solid families, just with circumstances that don't allow or benefit them to be homeowners. There is the simplicity benefit others have said. We all take different paths to fulfillment; if we marry to guide our spouse and children to God's love, does it matter if it the home it happened in was owned or rented?Chasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13191265549602485542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-34300542529833208952013-09-28T15:07:01.714-04:002013-09-28T15:07:01.714-04:00Also--trust me home ownership and mortgage payment...Also--trust me home ownership and mortgage payments are WAY overrated. Paint the walls of the rental. Just do it. Don't destroy anything but live wild. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-77729462259953669952013-09-28T15:05:43.003-04:002013-09-28T15:05:43.003-04:00Well we bought a house between the first and secon...Well we bought a house between the first and second baby. Then we lost it to foreclosure and declared bankruptcy between the 2nd and 3rd baby. So really--you're doing much better than us. Trust me. LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-14825722898317360222013-09-27T22:06:25.760-04:002013-09-27T22:06:25.760-04:00Thank you for saying that thing about owning is to...Thank you for saying that thing about owning is tough. Our girl is also 20 months old. This blasted house is consuming so much of our attention that I feel like it's coming at great cost to our family life. I hope things settle soon.Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11753603934212387119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-7888042737154443512013-09-27T21:02:04.648-04:002013-09-27T21:02:04.648-04:00I think there are wayyy more people who rent with ...I think there are wayyy more people who rent with children than people realize. It's not "backward"... it's just what is right and what is doable for that family at that time. Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05625035254559197934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-21615054365385011162013-09-27T18:30:53.929-04:002013-09-27T18:30:53.929-04:00Nicely said! HOME is where your HEART is...whether...Nicely said! HOME is where your HEART is...whether you live in a rental, mansion, etc. Pattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05900413545108321127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-29044480786651494242013-09-27T18:03:33.346-04:002013-09-27T18:03:33.346-04:00We do not own a hone yet either, we live in a smal...We do not own a hone yet either, we live in a small trailer. We have two boys and a baby in the way!!! We are very blessed and happy being together! ;)journey to heaven through lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11162800772157481903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-10249706175475391132013-09-27T17:47:58.046-04:002013-09-27T17:47:58.046-04:00Love this post, Mandi! My parents didn't own ...Love this post, Mandi! My parents didn't own a house until my younger sister was born, so I've never seen at as abnormal to have children before a house, even though most people nowadays think it is. People look at me like I have four heads when they ask me if I am done decorating the nursery and I tell them we're in a one bedroom apartment and our baby will sleep in our room! I am happy with how our life is now because I know we're following God's plan, but I sure don't like when people try to make me feel like I'm dumb for being pregnant right now! Savor His Goodnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14166108138569236709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-30863580538668451822013-09-27T16:02:39.719-04:002013-09-27T16:02:39.719-04:00People started asking us when we got engaged when ...People started asking us when we got engaged when we were buying a house. We just told them, "We're getting married ... not getting rich." Again when we announced the pregnancy, and we just answered, "We're getting a baby ... not getting rich." <br /><br />I truly don't mind the renting ... I mind the constant moving. Our baby will be moving into his third home in less than two years next month; it will be the tenth place I have lived. I wouldn't mind being in one place for awhile! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-51137883099308949172013-09-27T12:49:05.454-04:002013-09-27T12:49:05.454-04:00I'm right there with you, Mandi! We've be...I'm right there with you, Mandi! We've been married 6 years, have 2 kids, and are still renting. We might be renting for another three years or more depending on how my husband's job search goes and what we find wherever we move. I struggle with envy when I see friends who own lovely homes...but this is the life God has given us, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08599333986761793150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-73373591154897030072013-09-27T12:40:03.480-04:002013-09-27T12:40:03.480-04:00We've been in a similar situation with our stu...We've been in a similar situation with our student husbands, I think, and most of the time I'm okay with not having an actual house, though I sometimes struggle with the idea of not having an entirely permanent home yet, you know? But, like you say, it's the effort and the sense of building a loving family that make a place home--definitely agree that having a family is much more satisfying than anything material =)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448749344948883180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-40341141854845193692013-09-27T11:13:46.754-04:002013-09-27T11:13:46.754-04:00I needed to hear this! I get so depressed about re...I needed to hear this! I get so depressed about renting. But I know that it's the right move for us, financially. We're a one-income family so that I can stay home with my toddlers. If we bought a house, I'd likely have to work at my old job, and give up stay-at-home parenting. I'm just not ready to do that yet. Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09290553869571812657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-87343443124346138992013-09-27T09:49:06.297-04:002013-09-27T09:49:06.297-04:00I completely understand :) I was hoping we could s...I completely understand :) I was hoping we could start saving for a house after we were married, but due to both of our graduate school loans, that doesn't look like a possibility in the near future. But yes, like the cliche, home is where the heart is. Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13253894471336737960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-51964773877722099582013-09-27T09:40:04.606-04:002013-09-27T09:40:04.606-04:00I've been thinking about this as well. It feel...I've been thinking about this as well. It feels like everyone around us lives in a house and we are still in an apartment. But like you, I've learned that I should be counting the blessings that I do have. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-63748741793246645312013-09-27T09:08:48.986-04:002013-09-27T09:08:48.986-04:00Amen! My husband's career path makes it so we&...Amen! My husband's career path makes it so we'll ve moving a lot/renting for another 5ish years.. and people always ask when we are getting a house since we now have a baby it's not about the house - it's about the home. :)Stephanie Kunghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09586337442160000738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-74696828819426366192013-09-27T08:19:53.306-04:002013-09-27T08:19:53.306-04:00Oh and I don't think it's always supposed ...Oh and I don't think it's always supposed to include buying a house. That's a very suburban thing. Tons of people in cities never end up buying and still have socially "appropriate" lives. I know what you're saying though, and I know how much I hated renting...but owning is tough in the beginning until things settle Kaylenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16687217638729227801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-55864041529473902372013-09-27T08:18:00.786-04:002013-09-27T08:18:00.786-04:00True that. We didn't get to buy until g was 20...True that. We didn't get to buy until g was 20 months old, and that's only because we got a little help, and got lucky with my husbands bonus and extra pay from being in California for a while.Kaylenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16687217638729227801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-51649386695987129182013-09-27T08:13:30.161-04:002013-09-27T08:13:30.161-04:00It doesn't sound backward to me at all. You di...It doesn't sound backward to me at all. You did the love and marriage part and naturally children follow. A house is just a thing, after all. It can be replaced. Family can't be. Blessings!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18237834450801185728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-54362749374343928502013-09-27T07:59:15.303-04:002013-09-27T07:59:15.303-04:00We did this part 'backwards' as well, and ...We did this part 'backwards' as well, and finally bought that house. And, truthfully, it just makes life harder (thus far). Life is a bit more simple in rental living. Now I just have to fall in love again--with a house and a sense of permanence..<br /><br />My sister REALLY did things backwards: had a baby, then bought a house, then got married. (Not sure when she fell in love, if it was before or after house.)Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11753603934212387119noreply@blogger.com