tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post8009218612866388130..comments2023-07-28T09:40:38.679-04:00Comments on Messy Wife, Blessed Life: Guest Post: The care and keeping of single ladiesMandi Richardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14641577291206420549noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-25114047501010369342013-07-27T22:02:06.177-04:002013-07-27T22:02:06.177-04:00Thanks for your thoughts. I haven't been on th...Thanks for your thoughts. I haven't been on the other end of things as the one announcing an engagement. It must be tiring having to tell the same story over and over again when you'd really rather just soak it in yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-68494979526564236462013-07-27T00:11:16.010-04:002013-07-27T00:11:16.010-04:00This was a great post and I def. needed to hear th...This was a great post and I def. needed to hear this! When my sister got engaged I was really upset about it. They got engaged on this cruise in front of everyone and his parents there there. My mom and I didn't get invited or told anything about it and I felt really left out. Granted we had work obligations that weekend but it still hurt. Being single is just HARD somedays esp now living at home in the midst of all the wedding stress/drama/planning. <br /><br />I try REALLY hard to not vent via twitter/facebook and to use a journal but sometimes it's hard when you have no one to talk to and you want peoples opinions. I'm not perfect but I'm working on it :)Beth Anne @ Beth Anne's Besthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10094756369530433566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8604080738678475033.post-21237160204663949212013-07-26T19:19:43.902-04:002013-07-26T19:19:43.902-04:00About informing people of your engagement: I didn&...About informing people of your engagement: I didn't really tell anyone besides my best friend (and only after I had been engaged for a few weeks!). It was a lot to process and perhaps this is selfish but I wasn't thinking of anyone else after it happened; I just wanted to have some time to absorb all of the emotions with my fiance without the involvement of other people. I also felt that calling people just to tell them I was engaged was in bad taste, especially since the majority of my friends are single and seem disappointed about it...I didn't want to have to bring up a situation that might cause them to evaluate where they are in their lives and compare themselves to me, or to have to feign excitement to match my own. And I know not all people are like this, but I absolutely hate all the fuss people make about rings and weddings and whatnot, and telling people about the engagement seemed to be an invitation for people to ask all sorts of questions. One of the things I hated was telling people about the proposal, because it was such a personal, intimate moment for us. It felt weird having to give the play by play to other people. So I think its worth considering, when you find out about someone's engagement in a roundabout way, its not because they don't care about you! It's a completely new experience and many people don't have training in proper etiquette for the situation, or may handle it differently according to whatever their disposition is. I might add this advice to single people: be patient with those who are engaged and planning a wedding. It is a very busy time and can be extremely stressful!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13120320100648693691noreply@blogger.com