I can't take credit for this genius post idea. It's all Cat's. But considering I have exactly 78 posts in drafts, I'm thinking it's time to clear some out that, let's be honest, probably aren't ever going to see the light of day. So without further ado, a quick run down on some posts you might have seen but never will:
1. How to Choose a Pediatrician:
- Go to "meet the pediatrician" night.
- Go with your gut instinct.
- Ask questions
- Questions to ask:
- The number one question to ask a pediatrician is what he believes his role is. His answer should be along the lines of working with you to take care of your child's health needs. If the pediatrician thinks that it is his role alone to take care of your child's health, that he is in charge, or that he is there to tell you what to do, you probably don't want to use that pediatrician. The pediatrician's job is to partner with you to care for your child, healthcare is not a dictatorship, and the pediatrician should acknowledge since you are the parent and spend the majority of your child's life with him, you have the most important role in his health. You can spot the signs that something is out of the ordinary through daily interactions while a doctor can easily miss them in a 15 minute appointment.
Hmmm...well, don't know where else I was going with this one, but I suppose that is good advice. I will add a personal anecdote that I most likely meant to add. When we went to a "meet the pediatrician" night, the pediatrician leading the meeting asked if anyone planned on cloth diapering. When I raised my hand, she questioned me about it and told me that parenthood is hard enough without making it harder on myself. Then, she proceeded to suggest that anyone who planned to breastfeed should avoid seeing any of the male doctors in the practice because they weren't very supportive of it. Ped office that questions cloth diapers (a non-medical issue) and then doesn't fully support breastfeeding (a medical issue)? Cross that off my list.
2. The Best Gender Reveal Party
Gender reveal parties seem to be the next big thing. But I think that the best gender reveals are at birth.
Think that about covers it. Don't know how I expected to make that a full post.
3. A marriage is made of...
A marriage is not made from the "big moments" - the anniversaries and Valentine's Days, the trips or the fancy nights out - but made from the little stuff. Laughing at that same ridiculous commercial that comes on all the time. The difficult years of financial hardship and scraping by.
4. The Mom Haircut, The Newlywed Haircut
Just had a title on this one, but I remember the gist of what I planned to write. It seems that most of the newly married women and new moms I know got a short(er) haircut. Part of it is probably convenience - babies pull hair and many women who like their hair short grow their hair out for their weddings. Part of it has to do with identity - getting a new look as an outward sign of a very important change in life. I definitely very deliberately did not cut my hair out after I got married or had a baby - I've been growing my hair out since I got engaged in July 2009.
5. What I've Learned From Frequent Moving
Pack a box easily accessible with necessities - shower curtain and rings, towels, sheets, soap, etc. so you can be comfortable after a long move
Whichever moving truck/trailer you choose, it won't be big enough, so go a size larger than what you think you need
Package children's toys in saran wrap so the parts stay together (puzzles/toys without lids, etc.)
6. Lulu's 18 Month Photos
Guess I can toss a few up for you:
7. I understand why couples who experience the death of a child are more likely to divorce.
I am not angry, and the hurt is mostly gone, but still I feel great sadness, which I am told by many mothers who have similarly lost children in the womb, will never entirely go away. So right now, I'm trying to avoid reminders of our child - seeing pictures of pregnant friends due around my due date (why are there so many?), etc. Every time I see my husband, in his face I see our children - our daughter and the one we lost to miscarriage. Both happy and sad emotions. And right now, the sad is still overwhelming.
At the same time, he is the only person, beside God, that I can truly share my sorrow with. Only parents who have lost our child understand. Other parents have lost their children and they can understand to a degree, but it is different for each one of us. Their circumstances, their emotions are unique to them. The only ones that fully understand are the ones who lost this child: me, my husband, and the Lord, who created this child, who Fathers us all.
I'm sure I could make this into a full post, but I just don't have the desire to rehash all these emotions.
Now I have 61 drafts. My goal is to clear them out entirely by the end of March. You lucky readers, you.
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