Thursday, April 10, 2014

Our Song

Originally posted 3/20/12 as part of the link up at NFP and Me. Revived today to link up with Camp Patton's Wedding Song Dance Along (and because the blog's been pretty silent this week).  

What's your song? Share a video if there is one.
My husband and I have two songs.  Neither one is a traditional "love song" if you really listen to the words.  Early on in our dating relationship, our song was "Falling Slowly" by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova (from the movie "Once").  

Our first dance song at our wedding reception, "Use Somebody" by Kings of Leon, has since replaced it as "our song".  

Did you always have a song or did you have to find one?
"Falling Slowly" became our song naturally because we watched "Once" together early in our relationship when it was shown one Friday night as part of my university's independent/foreign film series.  Because the lyrics are more about a breakup than about enduring love (the song ends with "I paid the cost too late, Now you're gone"), we didn't feel it was appropriate for a first dance song.  So we had to find a new one. 

Why did you pick this song?
In short, because it was a little different and a song we both agreed on.  When I realized we needed to find a first dance song, I put together a short list of about five songs I was thinking of using.  Some of the songs I found online in lists of "good first dance songs", like "Fools Rush In".  Others were my personal favorites ("La Pared" acoustic version by Shakira).  "Use Somebody" was playing a lot on the radio at the time and I was very drawn to it every time I heard it.  David ruled some out right away (he didn't want to dance to a song in Spanish because most of our guests wouldn't understand it) and we were left with only a few.  In the end, we picked "Use Somebody" because it wasn't a typical first dance song but still had a beautiful meaning.

What does it mean to you?
It plays on the radio once in a while and it always melts my heart to hear it.  We took a few private dance lessons before the wedding and practiced over and over to that song, so it represents us learning to dance together which was really fun and exciting as we prepared for our big day. It reminds me of being held tight in my husband arms and having him learn to lead me.  Dancing is a really great metaphor for marriage, really. 

How has the meaning changed since you first chose it? 
I think we realize now more than when we first got married how much we need one another in our lives.  Especially now that we have a daughter, there are many moments when the lyrics "I could use somebody right now" rings true.  Somebody to share my life with.  Somebody to share in the happy moments, the difficult time, to split the household chores with.  And David is that perfect somebody for me.  Marriage isn't all about love and romance (although it's about that too), it's often about support and just having someone there next to you. 

Won't you share a picture of you two dancing? (Doesn't have to be a wedding picture!)
I tried to explain the song to our dance instructor before we met her, but she hadn't heard it before.  She seemed a little nervous when we brought it along and she first heard it since it was rather upbeat, but she was able to choreograph a little entrance to it and teach us some basic steps and turns to use.  We really shocked our friends and family that we were doing "fancy" dancing.  I love this picture because you can see the look on David's cousin's face in the background.  Explains it all!


  1. I've never heard Use Somebody until today but Falling Slowly is one of the most beautiful songs. We thought the same thing (it was a top contender for our song too) about it being a break up song.

    I love that picture of you guys. The cousin is great but David's face is perfect. It's like "Yeah, I'm doing it!" (fancy dancing that is.) Thanks for sharing! :)

  2. I hear that song every now and then too. I like it. It's different. I think before my wedding I'd like to take dance lessons too because I'm AWFUL at dancing!

    That is sooo weird what your LinkWithin is doing. I wonder why it is doing that :(

  3. Fortunately for you, as long as your significant other is a good lead, you just need to follow.  It's much easier for girls to learn to dance!

  4. That is good to know! Yeah I once "dated" i don't even think you call it that but he took me to a formal in college and he was a good dance leader :)

  5. Charlie and I chatted from the beginning of our relationship about our deep love for the movie Once. It wasn't too popular when we were dating but the sound track is something of a soundtrack of our dating. I like you two even more that I know you know and love that movie too.:)

  6. This is one of my favorite songs. I have actually never seen the movie and I am NOT even sure how I stumbled upon Glen Hansard but I adore this song. Great choice.


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