I'd like to thank Mandi for letting me guest post! I found her blog by chance, while entering some cloth diaper giveaways. I saw her blog's name was Catholic Newlywed. This interested me because I was a Catholic newlywed not too long ago. When I read her posts about being young & married, I was really interested in sharing my perspective.
|Mr. & Mrs. 11/22/08 married young|
After getting married, it became even more obvious that we were quite a rarity in modern America. In college, people go out for drinks, go dancing, have blind dates their friends set them up on, or join single groups through their church. We didn't need to do any of that, as we were already married (we had fun though, don't worry). We often felt out of place with many of our peers who were still living up the 'college life,' and we were settled down. I think that was harder on my husband than myself. Sometimes he felt like he should have the young & carefree attitude that his old fraternity brothers had. It caused some friction for us, but we worked through it together. I got excited when our church started to form a young married group for fellowship and spiritual growth. We were hoping to meet people like us, but after the first meeting, it turns out we didn't fit in so great there either. We were the youngest people there by about 6 years! The group was great and we made some sort-of-friends, but they had professional jobs & several already had kids. What we needed was a Young Catholic Student Newlywed group....guess there aren't too many of those around.
America has several unwritten, but often talked about, rules. You can't get married until you are done with school (whichever degree that means for you). The only reason you are supposed to get married before school is completed is if you are pregnant, broke, or in the military. You aren't supposed to get married without an extensive dating period, or at least not until you've known each other for a "long" time. Our marriage is an exception to those rules.
Exception to modern rule - met, engaged, married in less than 2 years
|3/17/07 look how young we look!|
Exception to modern rule - married young for love; not for pregnancy, money, or anything else
|our 1st apartment's "front porch"|
Exception to modern rule - dating was NOT the best part of our relationship
|3 months preg - Sept '10|
|May 14, 2010 Graduation Day!|
To me, the best thing about being married so young is that we have our whole lives to perfect marriage.
My husband said the nice thing about being married young is coming home to someone who loves him. No bar scenes or blind dates. We've already got a good thing going & are lucky to have found each other so young.
Letters from Momma. I blog about cloth diapers, Gianna's milestones, & parenting topics--including a giveaway every now and then.
Please check out the other posts (including some great guest posts) in my On Marrying Young series.