|my vocation as mom|
Now that I have a daughter and am a stay-at-home mom, I'm doing a very unexpected thing. I'm going back to work. Tomorrow will be my first day as a substitute teacher. True, I will only be working one or two days a week, but working part-time is enough to be considered a working mother. So, I stay at home AND I work, and I have a feeling that I'm in good company. Now, more than every before women truly have choices regarding balancing work and family. Some women still work outside of the home full-time and others still stay-at-home, but there is a growing number of women who do a little of both and even more that are work-at-home moms of some sort, selling homemade items out of their home, answering phones calls, and, well, blogging.
So, why do I stay at home? There are many reasons women stay at home and I have a feeling that none of my reasons are all that original. I stay at home for practical reasons - believe it or not, it's actually more economical for me to be at home than to work. Even if I were to get a full-time teaching job, the starting teaching salaries in the area aren't much more than I would be paying in daycare (not to mention gas). Add to that the money I save my family by having time to make homemade household products, fresh homemade meals, and couponing and the money I earn with online survey and rewards sites and we probably come out a little ahead. I also stay home because I feel that it is my vocation. I love spending time with my daughter, being her teacher and caregiver. Do children who have more personalized attention at home (whether with mom, dad or grandma) do better than their peers at daycare? It depends on which study you look at; however, I firmly believe that no one can understand a child and his individual development and needs more than his parents. I don't just stay at home for my daughter though, I also stay at home because of my vocation as wife. It brings me great joy to create a warm environment for my husband to come home to and be able to accomplish household tasks while he is at work so we can spend our time when he is at home as a family.
|in good hands with Daddy when Mama's gone|
I have the utmost respect for mothers who work and mothers who stay at home. Like all other parenting decisions, parents have the sole right and responsibility to decide what is best for their families. I myself was raised by a working mom and spent my days with my grandmother. My own mother has already offered to retire to watch Lulu if we move back to Colorado and I want to get a teaching position. Maybe I will take her up on that, because I believe that grandmothers might have an edge on even mothers when it comes to caring for children!
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