|not our first date, but our first picture together (about 2 months in)|
One of the things I've realized since marrying my sweet husband is that "true romance" is way different from the "romance" portrayed in books and movies. Sure, sometimes there are these whirlwind romances, but what happens once that couple marries? And most of us just don't have those stories and that's okay too.
While I certainly think the dating and engagement years of our relationship were romantic, they weren't book material. We met online, which was an incredible blessing as we never would have met each other in person. (Coincidentally, there is a high chance I would have met my brother-in-law in passing because he was friends with a childhood friend of mine in college, but I can't imagine we would have talked enough for him to think to introduce me to his brother.) While "You've Got Mail" was a good movie, I can't really say our online courtship was quite that cute. We've had our romantic moments, but they probably aren't all that romantic to anyone other than us.
|my mom took this secretly (the romance is still there)|
BUT, once in a while, those big romantic gestures are exactly what you need.
Last Friday was the fifth anniversary of our first date. Earlier in the week, David informed me that we were going out on Friday, that he'd already arranged for my mom to watch Lucia, and he wouldn't tell me when or why we were going. I was excited all week!
|my handsome husband|
Dinner was wonderful. It was Good Friday, so we had fasted all day knowing that our one full meal would be in the evening, so the food was super tasty (though meatless). Since we're usually fairly busy chasing a toddler, we don't spend a lot of time rescinding these days, but it was so sweet to think back to our first date and talk about our first impressions of each other. As I said, we met online, so we had gotten to know each other fairly well over the internet and the phone in the weeks preceding our first date. We both knew that there was potential for something special between the two of us, so there was a little added pressure on that first date. It wasn't a carefree "getting to know you" first date, but more of a "will this work". And it did!
As the night ended, we cashed in our arcade tickets to pick out little toys to put in our toddler's Easter basket. I reflected on whether five years ago, on our first date (which was also the first time we met in person), I could have imagined we'd be a few years married and picking out trinkets for our child. And in truth, I can say the answer is yes. While I wasn't certain we would get married and have children, I imagined that we could. If I hadn't, I don't think there would have ever been a second date. From the moment I peeked out my window to see a nervous young man in a salmon shirt get out of his truck and walk to my front door, I've never looked back. And the nervous butterflies I felt have turned into a strong love, a great love that keeps growing. We're five years into our love story but it's not over and I look forward to seeing it continue to unfurl.