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Bad mother, exhibit one: I locked Lucia in the car on Monday. It was stressful. Thank goodness it was just in front of our house, the weather was a perfect medium, and my parents were there to keep me calm and call for a locksmith. She was in the car a total of 40 minutes, and was happy as a clam the first 35. Needless to say, even after the car was opened and keys retrieved, we didn't leave the house that day.
Bad mother, exhibit two: Lucia climbed out of her crib yesterday during naptime and I didn't notice for hours. I put her in her crib for nap, she screamed, but eventually played with some toys, then quieted down and fell asleep. She woke up and I could here her playing for a while and since she was playing so nicely, I left her to play by herself. Finally, I went in to get her and she was on the floor! And had been there since the beginning of nap because she I had heard her playing with a toy that wasn't in her crib (she has a similar one that I put in the crib with her so I didn't notice until I went to get her). I can't imagine that she climbed down the outside gracefully, so that means my baby fell all that way and I didn't run in right away to comfort her. Thank goodness her room is mostly child-proofed (although her furniture isn't anchored to the walls yet) and she didn't get into any mischief at all. She wasn't hurt and I acted normally the rest of the afternoon, but I'm still a bit rattled.
That said, we are in desperate need of some major nap time advice. Lucia still takes two naps a day. Usually, we put her in her crib, she fusses for a few minutes (or not at all), then is out like a light. She often wakes up after an hour or hour and a half, fusses/plays for a few minutes and falls back asleep. When she wakes up for good, she'll play by herself in her crib for a while (we usually don't leave her in there for long). It was working wonderfully for us.
The past few days though, Lulu's been screaming when we put her in her crib. I've tried other more gentle ways of putting her to sleep - staying with her in her room, cuddling with her in our bed, nursing her, rocking her, etc. - but none of them have worked. If we don't just leave her in her crib crying, she won't end up sleeping at all. I didn't like leaving her screaming, but she needs to sleep and I couldn't find any alternatives. We lowered her crib so I doubt she'll be getting out again any time soon, but this incident made me realize that we have to find another way. What worked for you? I prefer to use gentler parenting methods, but I'm willing to try anything that will work. Also, keep in mind that she goes down for naps much better for David and the babysitter than she does for me.
Which leads me to my goals for Lent. I really only have one: be a better mother. I didn't give up something specific, although I have decided to limit my internet time to when Lucia is sleeping (I haven't done the best job of this so far, but I am trying). I also want to increase my face-to-face time with her. I spend quite a bit of time with her, and much of that time you could even say that I am playing with her, but I'm often distracted doing something else at the same time. I need to be spending more time looking into her eyes, letting her see that mama is looking, mama is paying attention, mama cares and delights in her.
|How can a mama not delight in her?|
|She's just so much fun.|
Come visit my brand new accessory shop, Blessed Life Boutique. I opened it just a few days ago via Kitsy Lane and I am so excited! The jewelry and accessories are so trendy. feminine, and affordable. The items in my shop are hand-picked by me and I can even choose specific items for my flash sale each week (this week's flash sale is feather & arrow inspired). I'd love if you would sign up as a customer. I have $20 off a $45 purchase coupons for the first 10 customers that sign up. (15% off coupons are available to everyone right now!) I'd love if you'd sign up as a customer and take a look at what I have to offer.
If you are interested in starting your own Kitsy Lane boutique, you can do so here. It's super easy to start up (it only took me a few minutes), is absolutely free, and involves only as much time investment as you are willing to put into it. Obviously, the more you promote and the more customers you get, the more you'll earn, but if you wanted to only put in a few hours a month, you can still earn money. The best part, it's super fun to pick out accessories for your own shop and style outfits to show off your pieces:
If you are still looking for something for your family to do for Lent, may I suggest collecting your change for Kaia! Her family needs help fundraising the cost of her adoption. If you would like to donate to this young lady and her family, you can do so here. Between now and February 28, all proceeds from ad space on Messy Wife, Blessed Life will go toward Kaia's adoption fund. If you have a blog or business, this is a great way to gain exposure as well as help this sweet little girl! It's a win-win. See ad space options here.
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